IS ENM FOR ME?

You can't un-ring this bell

Your partner brought up opening the relationship. Or maybe you did. Either way, the question is out there now, hanging between you like a weight you can't ignore. You're curious, maybe even excited, but also terrified of making a decision that could destroy everything you've built together.

So you're stuck. You've been "thinking about it" for weeks, maybe months. You read articles at 3am. You lurk in ENM forums hoping someone's story will magically tell you what to do. But every piece of advice contradicts the last one. Some people say it saved their relationship. Others say it ended theirs. And you're no closer to knowing if this is right for you.

Here's what's really happening: you're trying to make one of the biggest relationship decisions of your life without a framework. You don't know what questions to ask yourself. You don't know what factors actually matter. And you definitely don't know how to tell the difference between normal fear and legitimate red flags that mean you shouldn't do this.

Most couples waste 3-6 months in this paralysis, damaging their connection while they waffle. Some jump in without proper assessment and implode within weeks. Others say no out of fear and spend years wondering "what if." Both paths suck because neither involves actually figuring out what's right for your specific relationship.

Here's what you'll work through

This workbook gives you 38 diagnostic exercises that cut through the noise. You'll assess your relationship's readiness, identify your real motivations (versus the ones you think you should have), explore different ENM formats to see what actually fits your lifestyle, and make a confident decision together. No more endless circular discussions that go nowhere.